Thursday, April 10, 2008

"What Kind of Glue?"

This morning we were driving to school and Olivia was looking at a building that was in process of being built. She said, "Mom, what kind of glue do they use to hold buildings to the ground?" Too funny!!!

She is behind about 2-3 years in some ways, mostly emotionally, due to her foster care process, etc. Lately she has been asking a lot of questions firming up reality vs. fantasy, things that a 4 year old would most likely ask. A few days ago she said, "Mom, in Cinderella it says that if you believe in your dreams they will come true. Well, I have been dreaming about seeing J (her bio brother) and it's not happening." We've had these discussions a few times over the past month or so about songs like "I believe I can fly..." etc. And a lot lately about her brother, especially since the day Olivia wore a new locket wit a picture of her brother in it to school. She showed her teacher and expressed how sad she was that she didn't get to see him and her teacher told her that she was sure she would get to see him again soon! I was floored and heartbroken at the same time. If any student said that to me, regardless of knowing any of their history, I would just say, Oh I bet you do miss him, or Oh why don't you get to see him? Certainly not that they would see him soon when I didn't know the situation. She has had such a hard hard time with this and while I try to talk to her repeatedly about the situation and how his parents just don't cooperate in this and how we most likely will not get to see him, I know she doesn't understand. That comment put her right back in the frame of mind of thinking about why she doesn't see him. And like it or not, since she is behind emotionally, I am the bad guy in her mind in this. :(

2 comments:

Julie said...

I guess I didn't realize O was behind emotionally but it makes sense- I do love the questions kids ask. I am sad that she won't get to see her brother- I am sure she will always long for him. :( But we can only do what we can.

Sara said...

Wow, that would be so tough. How sad for your daughter to have to go through that, and how difficult for you to have to try to explain it--and know that it will be a while before she understands.

Have you told us what the deal is with the situation? Or is that private info? I don't remember reading about it...

The glue thing cracked me up. As did the buttons. One of my nephews has been like that since he was about 2! :)

Sara

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