tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post3940078516323797311..comments2023-11-02T10:16:39.198-05:00Comments on Little Did I Know: CourtLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00106155913054285175noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-28995391488113064282008-10-23T12:18:00.000-05:002008-10-23T12:18:00.000-05:00I am so sorry Lisa- it is another example of the d...I am so sorry Lisa- it is another example of the disrespect that foster parents face continually. All we hear is "teamwork" and "respect" but those great ideas stop when it comes to the system applying it to foster parents. Something needs to change- and the judge sounded just as disrespectful by his comment when you hesitated at the question- I think you should have just flat out refused to give anything but your first name no matter what they said. That is absolutely unnecessary, and just downright disgusting. We are not supposed to be doormats and that is what we are asked to be far too often. I am sorry for your experience and I will pray for healing and protection. <BR/>LindaLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14405199026388811152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-46748548283774001072008-10-22T22:04:00.000-05:002008-10-22T22:04:00.000-05:00Lisa, that is just awful! But like other's have sa...Lisa, that is just awful! But like other's have said, you serve a BIG GOD and He has your back. And really if the guy can't pronounce object you have a pretty good chance with him not remembering your name. :)Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08912330863352793142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-87522007436013100562008-10-22T20:55:00.000-05:002008-10-22T20:55:00.000-05:00I am so sorry your court date was so horrible. I c...I am so sorry your court date was so horrible. I can't believe they would put your family at risk like that and I totally understanc how upset you must have been. I think it's true that he will not remember anything, and I certainly hope that the transcripts will be edited (personal information removed)if requested.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10575641282282196055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-32046211038295883402008-10-22T12:48:00.000-05:002008-10-22T12:48:00.000-05:00I am currently in a similar situation. Birthfamily...I am currently in a similar situation. Birthfamily is violent and has many violent connections in illegal trafficking (if you knwo what I mean). They have already made the attempt to kidnap a biobrother from the hospital when he went in for cancer treatment.<BR/><BR/>So the social worker gives out our contact information to bio-family. Then denies it. Then we find out it was her from bio-brother's adoptive family cause they got it from her. Court orders, "protection" of a minor, all that tossed because of indiscretion.<BR/><BR/>We signed a confidentiality clause, too. You know, to "protect" our identity and location so our family could remain safe from these criminals. So much for that. Yet WE need to abide by it.<BR/><BR/>So I hear you. What to do. Especially when it is too late. I am hoping for your sake that he doesn't remember your name or gets it wrong. You need to write your letter to everyone involved. This happens too often and our kids are put at risk.<BR/><BR/>On the flip side, congratulations on the TPR! Next step, adoption finalization.Torinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00992090842674056507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-23913897108426097282008-10-22T08:06:00.000-05:002008-10-22T08:06:00.000-05:00That is so wrong, thank you for sharing. I was n...That is so wrong, thank you for sharing. I was not aware that they could do that either. <BR/><BR/>I think writing a letter and giving a formal complaint is the best thing to do, don't stop there do what ever you can do!<BR/>There is so reason someone should be allowed to just "forget"! <BR/><BR/>You are always in our prayers remember who the best protector is!Dearest Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00848815086310391690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-57826051539224404322008-10-22T06:14:00.000-05:002008-10-22T06:14:00.000-05:00Lisa I am so sorry that court went that way today....Lisa I am so sorry that court went that way today. I am sure that the birth father will (or may already have) forget your name. My name is not hard to remember either and I have had birth famiies (who were not in rage at the time) ask me many times what it was! I know that God will always protect you and your beautiful family!<BR/>RebeccaRebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11351461468842523407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-81925060343882251582008-10-21T23:04:00.000-05:002008-10-21T23:04:00.000-05:00I am so sorry. Praying for protection for you and ...I am so sorry. Praying for protection for you and for peace for your heart.Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04824783896256933963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-91997411523696993342008-10-21T21:28:00.000-05:002008-10-21T21:28:00.000-05:00That is horrible and I feel your fear. Remind you...That is horrible and I feel your fear. Remind yourself once again that you are NOT alone. You have a bridegroom and defender who loves you more than life itself. You bring that fear right to HIS lap. He also happens to control the world, so we will just ask HIM to erase that information from bio dad's mind. . because He can! <BR/><BR/>Praying protection, right words for that needed letter (!) and for the Lord to use this time to teach you something amazing about Him.<BR/><BR/>Love you, friend,<BR/>BrandiBrandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01080173627359254887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23828843.post-67340702239662723002008-10-21T21:20:00.000-05:002008-10-21T21:20:00.000-05:00OH MY GOSH LISA!!!!!!!!!!!! What a horrible exper...OH MY GOSH LISA!!!!!!!!!!!! What a horrible experience! I pray that he is not out in a LONG time and that he can't remember your name as he couldn't rememeber "object"! LOL!<BR/>Hugs,<BR/>KCreated For His Gloryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12276603070047038534noreply@blogger.com